As you can see from the graphic–this post is a bit older. Back when I was blogging on readwritesoar.com. But, the issue is something I think will carry value no matter the timeframe. So I wanted to make sure I transferred it here. 🙂
Now, cue Kara-of-yesteryear:
This is a post I was very content not writing. Like, ever.
When Kara sticks her head into political matters, she usually gets a headache. But, I just was really feeling like I needed to say something. And, considering that I didn’t grow up in the States, neither did I live in a place where we even had Target or public restrooms, I have a unique viewpoint on the issue.
So, here goes…
TWO DIFFERENT VIEWS
In most of the posts I’ve read, people (Christians in particular) seem to have one of two perspectives.
- Opinion #1: Transgender people are sickening sinners, and if we let them into a bathroom, it gives all manner of perverts the ability go in too and do horrendous things. It takes our raised fists and angry words to make sure we stay safe. (Okay, probably not quite that violent, but you get the idea)
- Opinion #2: Why are we even worrying about a silly bathroom? These people need love. We should accept them, show God’s love, and not worry about what restrooms Target wants to put in.
Now, I think both of these have valid points. But, in trying to determine what is the right thing to do, we seem to have missed out on the third option.
A THIRD CHOICE
I am no Bible Scholar, but when Jesus dealt with pressing issues in his day and age, he did so in a certain way. First, he would get to know the person. Key word: person. Treat the offender as a human being, showering his love on them. He would eat with the tax collectors (the major sinners in that society) and took time for prostitutes and murderers. He wouldn’t say a word about their lifestyle until he had first looked them in the eye. Shown them that he saw them–really saw them. Then, Jesus would speak truth. Click to Tweet
And that, my friends, is our third choice.
TRANSGENDERS ARE NOT EVIL
The LGBT community may be living in a way that displeases God (no doubt about it, even in Leviticus it talks about how its detestable to God for a man to dress in a woman’s clothes and vice versa) but that doesn’t make them evil. Or outcasts. It doesn’t make them any less human than we are. In the eyes of the merciful God who created us, we are all just as sinful and rotten. My selfish habits and jealous nature sentence me to hell just as much as the gender confusion that is all around us.
What the transgender people need is to understand what their true identity in Christ is. That they were created by a loving, intelligent and intentional God who has beautiful plans for them–exactly the way they are. They do not need our criticism or malice. Frankly, they don’t need us at all. They need Him. Click to Tweet
Without Jesus, they are doomed for hell just as I was. And without the Holy Spirit working inside them, they will never be able to be truly content with themselves and turn away from a false sense of identity, twisting what He created them to be. We need to shower Christ’s love on them, and be such blazing examples of who He is, and the healing that comes from Him, that they cannot help but be drawn to the source of our light. Click to Tweet
THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOMEONE
Now, while I will gladly admit that I love transgender people…and homosexuals, bisexuals and anyone else who is a sinner like I am, that doesn’t mean I think their sin is alright. Jesus himself loved the sinner, while reprimanding the lifestyle. However, I think that the bigger issue with the idea of having man who identifies as woman coming into the female bathrooms is the inappropriate situation this puts women in. Even if that “man” has absolutely no intentions of hurting anyone, it is still awkward. Much as I love them, it just is. But, far beyond that, the openness of these bathrooms can now make it even more accessible for people with darker motives. There will always be someone who walks into that female restroom intending to do a woman harm. We live in a fallen world that gets more depraved every minute.
PROTECT THE BROKEN
This goes for all the broken people in the world. You. Me. The transgender person being abused while in the men’s bathroom. The little girl hiding in her stall because the person with the deep voice and short hair washing his hands is bringing back unpleasant memories and causing tears to rise.
There is no easy answer to this. Since we live in a country that is not guided by Christian values, it is understandable that they would try to make a way for transgender individuals to have a comfortable restroom. But, at the risk of the rest of us? We who have been put in a more vulnerable situation? Why not create a one stall bathroom (like a family bathroom some establishments have) so that transgender people can have what they feel comfortable with, while also protecting the women (and men) of our country.
Not to say that I have all the answers, but to only show God’s love to the transgenders and forget to protect the women who seem to be directly affected, seems like a vast mistake to me. Click to Tweet
HEART OF THE MATTER
Ultimately, like anything, its a heart issue. And our hearts are dark places without His light.
We can say that we want to stop these people from entering our restrooms to protect innocents, but is that truly the motive? Or is it another way to push anyone who seems like a bigger sinner than us farther away? The LGBT community makes many Christians uncomfortable. We don’t always know how to respond to something that is not pleasing to God, but so all-consuming. To something that changes a person’s very identity. But, maybe that’s the point.
Anyone who finds their identity in a place other than Christ is going to be searching in all the strangest places. It is not that as a Christian, I believe I’m better than anyone. In fact, I am just as much a sinner as the next girl. But, I know someone who shed his own blood for me. Who died in my place, so that I do not have to be identified by the choices I make. Or the times I’ve fallen short.
I believe that we all have identity confusion. We are all searching for ourselves, but it isn’t till we accept that we are sinners in need of Him, that Christ becomes our identity. Our hope. Click to Tweet And if his love has replaced our own insecurities, how can we not extend that same unconditional love to the rest of the world, still searching as we were?
Forget the bathroom. Love the person.
What these men and women that identify as transgender really need is not a bathroom, its a Savior. Click to Tweet To find their identity in the very One who created them. And if that is our goal in trying to reach out to them, to love like Jesus, and also protect the women in our bathrooms, then maybe…just maybe…Christians wouldn’t be seen as angry people, but as those who genuinely want to make a change.
Or not. But, regardless of how the media portray it, I want to touch the lives of the people around me–transgenders included–just like Jesus did. Because my identity in him is all that truly matters.
What do you think about this entire debate? Please try to be civil 🙂 Do you agree or disagree with me? Why?